Tag: sexual expression
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Conversation: Stigma, Sexuality, Disability
Last week I had the privilege of being on a panel about stigma, sexuality, and disability with Andrew Gurza and the cohosts of The Pulse. We managed to squish a lively discussion of flirting, dating, stigma, self-disclosure, and loads more juicy stuff into a 35-minute radio segment. The best part is that the show was…
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Direct Support Meets LGBTQ+ Folks With Disabilities
A week ago I snuck into the National Alliance for Direct Support Professionals Webinar on supporting people with intellectual disability who are lesbian, gay, bi, trans, queer, or something else under the label of LGBTQ+. It felt like sneaking because I don’t work with folks with intellectual or developmental disability, directly or otherwise, but, actually,…
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We’re All Normal, And Other Sexy Scientific Facts
We’re all normal. let me repeat that, we’re all normal. Our bodies are normal. Our relationships are normal. Our sexual desires are normal. Our sex lives are normal. Note: This only applies if you don’t use sex as a weapon. If you do,stop…just stop. * Emily Nagoski is the Wellness Education Director at Smith College.…
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Sexuality Attitudes, Disability Myths, and Shopping For Sex Toys
Of the five sex toy stores I’ve personally visited over the past 15 years, only one had a flat entrance. Of those five, only three had employees who didn’t respond to me as a visibly disabled person with obvious anxiety, and, in one case, hostility. — Sex toys – It’s one of the first things…
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Ready, Sexy, Able October Round-Up
Sexuality, Relationships, and Disability A Love Letter to My Neurotypical Husband, From Your Autistic Wife People often say marriage (or any long-term romantic relationship) is about compromise. I think it’s about understanding, showing that understanding, growing with a partner. This woman and her husband don’t – can’t – just go through the motions of a…
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Film Friday: An Invitation to Jam
This week’s film gives us a fresh way to look at sex. A sexual “jam” is for everyone. It’s a way of looking at sex and sexuality that makes room for different bodies and minds, as well as different desires, needs, and preferences. Karen B.K. Chan proposes that we look at having sex as like…
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Book Review: Hot, Wet, and Shaking by Kaleigh Trace
Honesty, self-awareness, a wicked sense of humour, an unflinching sense of the ridiculous. You generally need all of these to be able to talk as candidly about your sex life as Kaleigh Trace has done in Hot, Wet, and Shaking: How I Learned to Talk About Sex. These essays are about a lot more than…
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How do disabled people have sex, anyway?
Can we all agree that asking random people on the street (or in the mall, or anywhere, really) about their sex life is just plain creepy? People with disabilities are asked, much more often than you’d think, how, or if, we have sex. No, really, this happens all the time. If it’s not about sex…
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Sexual Expression Is a Meaningful Activity, Too
I wrote the following post in March 2014, after attending Mara Levy‘s talk, Problem-Solving Sex with Disability at the Catalyst Conference. Mara Levy is an Occupational Therapist (OT) in Washington DC. Occupational therapists help people who’ve experienced injury or illness to return to activities that are meaningful to them—activities like walking, driving, working, crafting, and…