Ready, Sexy, Able is your one-stop resource for information on
sex, sexuality, disability and relationships.
What you can expect to find here: Articles, reviews, resource lists, diverse and differing opinions, commentaries that challenge widely-held beliefs about sex, sexuality, and disability, and representations of bodies and minds that work all sorts of different ways. You can expect to find a place that respects and honours diversity, including in gender expression, sexual orientation, relationship preferences and choices to (including the choice not to) have sex. You can browse resources from other online and offline spaces, find links to all the latest commentary and research in one place, and catch glimpses into the history of disabled people reclaiming and negotiating their sexualities.
This is a supportive, inclusive space to celebrate disabled people and our sexualities and relationships. It is a place to support and honour the decisions we all make about our sexual and intimate lives. This is also a space to recognize and work towards healing the sexualized or relationship violence too many disabled people experience.
Why Have a Site Specifically About Disabled People and Sex?
Sex and sexuality are often seen as low priority for people who look different, need help using the toilet, can’t use public transportation, don’t think or learn or express themselves in ways our society has decided are acceptable. The media has convinced us that sexual expression belongs to people whose bodies fit a common definition of normal. In spite of that, or more likely because of it, people whose minds and bodies are different in some way have wonderfully diverse sexual experiences and desires.
Sexuality is also so much more than sex play and desires. It’s about thoughts, about feelings, about how we relate to our own bodies and minds, about how we relate to other people’s bodies and minds. It’s connected to our experiences of sex (with ourselves or with other people), but also to whether we can or want to reproduce, whether we’ve experienced sexual abuse or coercion, the values and beliefs we’ve been taught about sex, the values and beliefs we’ve discovered for ourselves.
Here at Ready, Sexy, Able, we think that difference and disability can teach people about sex and sexuality. There’s no such thing as normal sex, and ways of having sex that accommodate different bodies and minds aren’t lesser or adaptive.
There’s no one way to do things, and no right answers. If you want to see something posted here that’s not. If you have a concern about something that is posted here? Email Robin@readysexyable.com.