Ready Sexy Able Resources

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The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For all of us who live with disabilities, chronic pain, or illness. A how-to guide for people with different bodies or minds. From anal sex, to yoga, with stops at communication,, queer identities, sex positions, and everywhere else in between, this sex guide is for anyone whose body or mind doesn’t fit the limited definition of sexy we find in other sex information books. Learn more and buy from Amazon Learn more and buy the audio edition
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Poetic ConfessionsPassionate poetry from the artist and activist Maria R. Palacios, The “Goddess On Wheels.” Think you don’t like poetry? Try this. These are real words about real experiences. Topics include hospitalization and illness, lost love, sexual passion, and the sensuousness of cooking.

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Trophy Wife: Sexuality, Disability, Femininity
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QDA: A Queer Disability Anthology QDA is a collection of poetry, short stories, and personal essays exploring the connections between gender, sexuality, and disability. Forty-eight writers, from two continents, from across gender and sexuality spectrums, from different racial and ethnic backgrounds, mostly D-deaf, disabled, or both share their experiences with sex, with family, with religion, with dating, poetry-writing, and their own bodies.

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The Disabled Woman’s Guide to Pregnancy and Birth
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Already Doing It: Intellectual Disability and Sexual Agency.

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Criptiques. Anthology of writings by people with disabilities exploring body image, intimacy, disability prejudice, experiences with the medical system, and more.
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Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism and How to Think Smarter About People Who Think Differently If you’re wondering how this book relates to sex, relationships, and disability, it doesn’t, at least not directly. Neurotribes is a ground-breaking history of autism and autistic people, both of which have been misunderstood for far too long. steve Silverman’s writing is engaging, and the stories he tells show us realities that have either been hidden or forgotten.

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Exile and Pride: Disability, Queerness, and Liberation. Learn more and buy from Amazon.
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Regain that Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery: People Living With Spinal Cord Injuries Share Profound Insights Into Sex, Pleasure, Relationships, Orgasm, and the Importance of Connectedness. Learn more and buy from Amazon. Learn more and buy from independent booksellers.

Eyes of Desire: A Deaf Gay and Lesbian Reader. Currently out-of-print, but well worth buying used or tracking down through your local library. This book is a collection of essays by and interviews with D/deaf and hard-of-hearing people about how their experiences of deafness connect with their experiences of being lesbian, gay, queer, or transgender. [Learn more and buy used from Amazon.

Eyes of Desire 2: A Deaf GLBT Reader. A second volume of essays by and about people who are both D/deaf, Hard-of-Hearing or Deaf-Blind and LGBQ and/or trans. Learn more and buy from Amazon.

Love, Sex, and Disability: The Pleasures of Care. This book is for anyone whose ever been told they’re so brave to be married to a disabled person, and for anyone whose ever had their intimate partner mistaken for their caregiver. Sarah Smith Rainey uses original research, books and films by disabled people, and her own experiences to examine what giving and receiving care within an intimate relationship really looks like. Learn more and buy from Amazon.

Playing With Disabilities. Sadly, this unique book is out of print. People with disabilities have complex, beautiful, powerful sexualities. The contributors to this book candidly and provocatively share how their physical or mental disabilities affect, and even enhance, their BDSM desires and play. learn more at Amazon.

Queer Crips: Disabled Gay Men and Their Stories. This is a collection of essays and interviews with gay men who have physical disabilities, and the nondisabled men who support and love them. Learn more and buy from Amazon

Sexual Politics of Disability: Untold Desires. Currently out-of-print, this book is a must-read for any sexuality and disability scholar or advocate. It’s the first book published specifically on this topic, and mixes theory with stories and interviews…. This is the only study we know of that talks about participants’ experiences with sex ed and sexual exploration as young people, as well as their lived experiences as adults with disabilities. Also inclusive of LGBT and people of colour. learn more at Amazon.

Sex and Disability.
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Fading Scars: My Queer Disability History. Corbett OToole’s book of memoir essays chronicles forty years of disability activism in the United States. Topics include parenting disabled children, being a disabled parent, wheelchair sports, and racism in the disability community. Learn more and buy from Amazon.
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Hot, Wet, and Shaking: How I Learned to Talk about Sex Kaleigh Trace turned to the shelves of books at the sex toy shop where she worked to learn about sex and masturbation. She tells us how that went for her, and what she learned about her disabled body in “Fresh-faced and Orgasm Free.” Other funny, serious, and always provocative essays in this memoir include “And the Warmth Spread Over Us,” “How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love My Tricycle,” and “Looking for Blood.” Learn more and buy from Amazon. Learn more and buy from independent booksellers.

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