Author: Robin
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Film Friday: IN The Eye Of The Beholder (The Diane De Vries Story)
diane De Vries was born without arms and legs. This fast-paced, hard-hitting and beautifully honest documentary takes us through Diane’s life, through the ways the fear of her devoutly religious grandmother and the physical neglect of her mother shaped her childhood, through the ways being physically different impacts her interactions with others as an adult…
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September Ready, Sexy, Able Round-Up
September brought us news and views on the state of sex ed in the United states (not good), disabled women’s access to sexual health care (also not great), the complex mathematical calculations that go into whether and how to reveal a disability in an online dating profile, and more. Here on Ready Sexy, Able, we…
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Happy Ableist Anniversary, Ken, or, Facts About Sexuality and Disabled People
An Open Letter to Ken Jennings: A year ago, you tweeted “Nothing sadder than a hot person in a wheelchair.” Yes, that was a year ago, about a million years in cyber time. Let’s revisit this anyway. There’s some important stuff here. We still have ableism, and we still have loads of wrong-headed beliefs about…
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Book Review: CRIPTIQUES
I cannot talk about illness and how it affects me, without mentioning how it is tied to my immigration status, or my choices and access as a queer upper class woman. The axes of benefits and struggles at which I find myself leads to a particular set of options. From there, I make choices. There,…
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FilmFriday: Disability, Dating, Dancing and More
Today’s film is short, but long on great energy and ideas. Laci Green and her friend Olivia give us the lowdown on sex and disability, everything from dating, to dancing, to fetishizing. Two gems from Olivia: People who fetishize (are sexually aroused by and attracted to) disability aren’t wrong or bad. The problem with fetishizing…
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No Excuses For Abuses: This Support Worker Sexually Assaulted His Clients
Update Craig Handasyde Resources for Self-Advocates What Is Sexual Assault? Invisible victims: Sexual assault of people with an intellectual disability Sexual assault and adults with a disability: Enabling recognition, disclosure and a just response
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Ready, Sexy, Able: August News and Views Round-Up
August brought us a lot of personal narratives, powerful, funny, sad, and thoughtful. Topics include respectful personal care, dating, not-so-accessible sex toys, a moving day-in-the-life of a support worker for disabled folks who’ve experienced sexual violence, and so much more. Disability Rights A Bill of Rights as an Autonomous Disabled Person No One Wants to…
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Film Friday: One Step Out Of Loneliness
Then my behaviour therapist called, I asked him how to get a girl friend, he said he’d draw up a plan with a step by step process. … Did you know that there are 176 steps that you need to climb in order to get out of loneliness. That’s a lot. Loneliness can feel like…
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Film Friday: An Invitation to Jam
This week’s film gives us a fresh way to look at sex. A sexual “jam” is for everyone. It’s a way of looking at sex and sexuality that makes room for different bodies and minds, as well as different desires, needs, and preferences. Karen B.K. Chan proposes that we look at having sex as like…
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Book Review: Hot, Wet, and Shaking by Kaleigh Trace
Honesty, self-awareness, a wicked sense of humour, an unflinching sense of the ridiculous. You generally need all of these to be able to talk as candidly about your sex life as Kaleigh Trace has done in Hot, Wet, and Shaking: How I Learned to Talk About Sex. These essays are about a lot more than…