Ready, Sexy, Able is an online resource library for sex, sexuality, disability and relationships information.
What we’re about: We’re here to challenge widely-held beliefs about sex, sexuality, and disability. We’re here to represent the beautiful diversity of bodies, minds, and hearts of disabled and chronically ill people.
We’re here to support the idea that sexuality isn’t just about having sex.
We’re here to put forward the idea that you are enough, just the way you are.
We’re also here to support people learning about themselves and their sexualities.
You’ll find articles, reviews, resource lists and more, carefully pulled together from online and offline spaces.
The information we gather here is carefully selected to be accurate, inclusive, respectful – and to boost self-confidence and empower through knowledge.
We’ve also gathered information in a variety of formats – written, audio, video, and sign language. You’ll find links to everything from sex and relationship information written in plain language, to academic research studies.
Ready, Sexy, Able is a space that respects and honours diversity, including in gender expression, sexual orientation, relationship preferences and in choices around how much and what kind of sex to have – or, the choice not to have a particular kind of sex, or any sex at all.
You can browse resources from other online and offline spaces, find links to all the latest commentary and research in one place, and catch glimpses into the history of disabled people reclaiming and negotiating their sexualities.
This is a supportive, inclusive space to celebrate disabled people and our sexualities and relationships. It is a place to support and honour the decisions we all make about our sexual and intimate lives. This is also a space to recognize and work towards healing the sexualized or relationship violence too many disabled people experience.
Why Have a Site Specifically About Disabled People and Sex?
Sex and sexuality are often seen as low priority for people who look different, need help using the toilet, can’t use public transportation, don’t think or learn or express themselves in ways our society has decided are acceptable. The media has convinced us that sexual expression belongs to people whose bodies fit a type that society considers “normal.” In spite of that, or more likely because of it, people whose minds and bodies are different in some way have wonderfully diverse sexual experiences and desires.
Sexuality is also so much more than sex play and desires. It’s about thoughts, about feelings, about how we relate to our own bodies and minds, about how we relate to other people’s bodies and minds. It’s connected to our experiences of sex (with ourselves or with other people), but also to whether we can or want to reproduce, whether we’ve experienced sexual abuse or coercion, the values and beliefs we’ve been taught about sex, the values and beliefs we’ve discovered for ourselves.
Here at Ready, Sexy, Able, we think that difference and disability can teach people about sex and sexuality. There’s no such thing as normal sex, and ways of having sex that accommodate different bodies and minds aren’t lesser or adaptive.
There’s no one way to do things, and no right answers. If you want to see something posted here that’s not. If you have a concern about something that is posted here? Email Robin@readysexyable.com.